Bagged Out

If your prospective girlfriend (this could apply toward boyfriends too increasingly!) has more mental/emotional baggage than she has hands, you’re about to be burdened. Don’t think your charm and attention are going to get rid of that baggage, either (and certainly not fast). Some other guy may have loaded up some of the contents of those bags, but there’s usually reasons that have little to do with dating males (and that dating males can’t fix).

Don’t get your baseball cap’s shadow in your eyes and the fog in your thinking, either. If she says she isn’t high maintenance, or clingy, or mental…she probably is at least one of those.

MSN solicited comments from men about what scoots them away from commitment, or even from continuing a new relationship. Here’s a sample:

"You got a bunch of luggage from previous relationships you want me to help you unpack."

"If you're more interested in being involved with other people’s lives instead of living your own."

"If you don't like when I'm hanging with my friends."

Time and again we see repeated the problems of jealousy, insecurity, control, manipulation, drama, shallowness, etc.

We males aren’t exactly bright bulbs, though. We see the probs and somehow rationalize them away (in direct proportion to the physical attractiveness of the female—a bet against the odds, given that the chances and severity of aforementioned probs go up with the greater attractiveness level). Would make a great bar shirt: “Hormones and biology: Bringing the genders together (for one night at least) despite their alien natures for hundreds of thousands of years.” LOL

Not all is dysfunctional. We’ll be discussing (but not in linear or sequential fashion!) what the genders get right (or right enough, often enough) in future posts.